From Lack to Luster—Your personality’s darkest lack is your essence’s brightest luster.

Aug 3

Introduction

The true power of the Enneagram lies in its ability to reveal how your experience of lack aligns with the essence of your true self. Your essence, once recognized and embraced, evolves into your guiding star—your unique gift to the world.

Imagine your most authentic self as a serene, peaceful lake—your essence—breathtaking in its tranquility. However, from childhood, life begins to toss stones into your serene waters, generating waves and ripples. These turbulent waters represent your personality traits, stirred into action by the rocks of stress and trauma.

It's critical to understand that your personality traits are not senseless disruptions. They function as currents beneath the surface, working tirelessly to regain your tranquility. When stress boulders are thrown into your lake, currents spring forth—striving to restore your vital essence.

Despite the well-intentioned nature of your personality traits or 'currents', they end up producing more ripples. Their efforts to restore essence lead to more disturbances, eventually forming a pattern—your primary Enneagram type.

The most striking wisdom of the Enneagram is its capacity to illuminate the paradox of our nature. The primary theme of your personality type—your greatest challenge—mirrors the essence of your most profound strength.

The largest ripples on the surface reflect the deepest serenity beneath.

Your greatest challenge and your greatest strength are two sides of the same coin. The Enneagram serves to help you rekindle your connection with the tranquil depths of your lake—your essence.

Example

Let's use the Type One and the metaphor of the lake to walk through this Enneagram wisdom. Following this example, you can then apply this same approach to the other Enneagram types. To assist you, I’ll provide the key terms for each type.

The essence of Type One is universal integrity and perfection—beyond beliefs and behaviors.

Imagine an experience of integrity or perfection that is rooted in a universal quality rather than rigid standards. Like the steadfast and pure roots of a grand oak tree, maintaining their stability and purity regardless of the fluctuating states of its branches and leaves.

Visualize essence as the fundamental quality of your internal lake. Life throws in stones of stress, causing ripples to disrupt your tranquil waters of integrity and perfection. These undercurrents of stress obscure your perception of essence—muddying the clarity of your waters.

This turmoil stimulates personality traits that strive to restore your essential qualities of integrity and perfection.

However, these traits are misdirected—unable to locate the essence you once knew. Your Type One personality fixates on smoothing out the surface ripples, creating only an imitation of true perfection.

Your Type One personality operates under the assumption that it can recover its essence by upholding rigid standards—hinging on a belief of what perfection should be.

Herein lies the paradox of the Type One—two sides of the same coin. The key challenge for your Type One personality is a struggle with perceived imperfections and lack of integrity. Conversely, the key strength is an ability to embrace acceptance, patience, and forgiveness.

The Type One personality traits are marked by judgment, resistance, and pessimism. Paradoxically, the Type One gift to the world is an ability to stay rooted in true perfection—becoming a beacon for forgiveness.

When Type One reconnects with essence, it manifests discernment, justice, responsibility, and acceptance. Type One maintains acceptance and understanding—gracefully navigating life's inevitable flaws and failures.

Now I’ll provide the key terms for each type. Each category provides a different lens to understand the complexity of the Enneagram type:

Essence: Your core, innate qualities
Personality: Your behavioral tendencies when not aligned with essence
Challenge: Your fundamental fears or struggle
Strength: Your abilities when mature
Gift: Your unique contribution to the world

Make sense? Join me on a quick journey through the nine types. You can apply these categories to understand the way each type shifts from lack to luster.

Type One

Essence: Your connection to universal perfection and integrity
Personality: Your tendency towards judgment, resistance, pessimism
Challenge: Your struggle with imperfections, lack of integrity
Strength: Your ability to embrace acceptance and patience
Gift: Your ability to stay rooted in true integrity—becoming a beacon for forgiveness

Type Two

Essence: Your connection to universal love and compassion
Personality: Your tendency towards people-pleasing and excessive giving
Challenge: Your struggle with feeling unwanted or unworthy of love
Strength: Your ability to embrace self-care, boundary setting, and honoring all needs
Gift: Your ability to nurture and nourish—becoming a beacon for self-care and healthy boundaries

Type Three

Essence: Your connection to universal value and impressiveness
Personality: Your tendency towards image-obsession, workaholism, competitiveness
Challenge: Your struggle with feeling worthless without achievement
Strength: Your ability to embrace inspiration, genuine expression and self-acceptance
Gift: Your ability to inspire purpose and worth—becoming a beacon for intrinsic value

Type Four

Essence: Your connection to universal exquisiteness and depth
Personality: Your tendency towards melancholy, envy, self-indulgence
Challenge: Your struggle with feeling ordinary and lacking significance
Strength: Your ability to embrace emotional strength and compassionate self-understanding
Gift: Your ability to create deep beauty—becoming a beacon for exquisite depth and profound self-love

Type Five

Essence: Your connection to universal peace and wisdom
Personality: Your tendency toward detachment, hoarding knowledge, and intense privacy
Challenge: Your fear of being overwhelmed by the world
Strength: Your ability to share wisdom and encourage engagement in the world
Gift: Your ability to balance complex and quiet wisdom—becoming a beacon for peace and resilience

Type Six

Essence: Your connection to universal trust and assurance
Personality: Your tendency toward skepticism, suspicion, over-caution
Challenge: Your fear of being without support or guidance
Strength: Your ability to encourage assurance and trust in self and life
Gift: Your ability to balance community and self reliance—becoming a beacon for trust, connectivity, and equality

Type Seven

Essence: Your connection to universal joy and fulfillment
Personality: Your tendancy towards escapism, gluttony, impulsiveness
Challenge: Your fear of missing out and being trapped in emotional pain
Strength: Your ability to cultivate presence, sober contentment, and balanced pursuits
Gift: Your ability to spread joy and positivity—becoming a beacon for sober fulfillment and grounded joy

Type Eight

Essence: Your connection to universal power and potential
Personality: Your tendency towards aggression, dominance, lust for intensity
Challenge: Your struggle with feeling controlled and vulnerable
Strength: Your ability to nurture humility, maturity, and true power
Gift: Your ability to empower—becoming a beacon for vulnerability, humility, and balanced strength

Type Nine

Essence: Your connection to universal harmony and unity
Personality: Your tendency towards inertia, avoidance, indifference
Challenge: Your fear of conflict and disconnection
Strength: Your ability to promote action, presence, and acceptance of intensity
Gift: Your ability to foster harmony—becoming a beacon of constructive intensity, action, and empowerment

In the vibrant tapestry of your being, each Enneagram type shines as a unique hue. Your primary type, your dominant color, gleams brightest when aligned with your true nature. You are a blend of essence with one distinct shade standing out. Real growth blooms not from denying your struggles, but from understanding them and reconnecting with your essence.